Wedding Guest, 39, Says Friend Is Insisting on Sharing Hotel Room at Destination Wedding

• A Reddit user has asked for advice after revealing her friend won’t attend an upcoming wedding they’ve both been invited to unless they share a hotel room — which she doesn’t want to do
• “She’s very sensitive and I know that being honest and explaining I’d prefer not to share the room is the right thing to do, but I know she will be heartbroken,” the woman wrote
• The poster explained that she’s nearly 40 and likes her “privacy” and “space,” but knows her friend won’t be able to afford the room “on her own”

A woman is questioning whether she’s in the wrong after not wanting to share a hotel room with a friend at an upcoming destination wedding they’ve both been invited to.

In a recent post on Reddit’s popular “Am I the Assh— (AITA)” thread, a 39-year-old female said she and a friend, who she called “Beth” in the message, had been invited to a mutual friend’s nuptials, adding that she’d booked her flight and hotel “immediately.”

The poster explained how eight months before the wedding, “Beth hinted how we could save money and split a room.” 

“I told her I already booked one and encouraged her to get one with her husband. [Two] months after that, she said her husband wasn’t going and that we could make it a girls trip,” the Reddit user wrote.

“I hesitated and insinuated I might want to bring a date (knowing that might not be the case BUT I wanted my privacy),” she continued.

The woman wrote that Beth was now asking how much she owed for the room two months before the wedding.

“I feel awful because she won’t be able to afford it on her own. Her flight is free because of a pilot in the family but the rooms are $2K,” the poster said. “So I, somewhat, will determine if she gets to see our friend get married.” 

“I’m nearly 40 and like my privacy, space, etc. She’s very sensitive and I know that being honest and explaining I’d prefer not to share the room is the right thing to do, but I know she will be heartbroken,” the woman shared.

Reddit users were divided in the comments section. 

One person called out the poster for “super poor communication,” insisting, “You should have told her ‘no’ 6 months ago.”

Another user pointed out, “She’s a full-grown adult and needed to take care of this herself.”

“You are not responsible for her finances or travel plans. $2k for a room is crazy though, she should ask the bride if there’s anyone else who wants to split,” one person commented, adding, “Also instead of ‘insinuating’ you’d bring a date, you should have been more upfront and direct about it then.”

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A different Reddit user suggested, “Let her stay with you. You and your friends are going to make some great memories. Let her pay her share of the room, treat it like the last slumber party you’ll ever have and enjoy yourself. We all have plenty of time to be alone, time with friends is not guaranteed. She’s obviously going through financial difficulties.”

Another commented, “It’s not on you to subsidize her trip. You told her you weren’t interested in sharing.”